We often advise families to create a dedicated place for family and friends to connect and remember their loved one. Having such permanent place - in a cemetery, mausoleum, or cremation garden - that can be visited regularly by family and friends is an essential part of the time following a death.
In our rather hectic lives, families aren't given enough time to grieve their losses. The pressures of work, even the simple emotional need to ‘be busy,’ often bring the bereaved back into the ‘real’ world far too soon. In addition to the time constraints put on grieving families, many are now choosing to scatter the cremated remains of their loved one. While that may seem fitting at the time, it means that you do not have a consistent place to connect with the memories of the person you loved so dearly.
Such a place, whether in a cemetery, mausoleum, or a memorial garden in your back yard, gives everyone a special place to go to remember your loved one, or to commemorate important occasions. It can help to make a birthday or anniversary less painful.
Not only that, a permanent place to reflect on your loved one becomes a way of connecting to a family's past. Visiting the resting place of grandparents or great-grandparents may provide children with an anchor to their personal history. While it is a connection to the past, a permanent memorial honors the relationship you still have – and will always have – with that person.