Designing Your Funeral
We like to simplify things for our clients, so we tell them that basically, there are two elements of the design process. First, we consider how you wish care for the physical remains. Often people are clear on this point, but it can be a hard decision for some families. When that important decision is made, you have the privilege of designing a funeral or memorial service to honor and celebrate your loved one’s life.
It's All about the Relationship
You knew your loved one better than anyone else, and you have the memories of your shared lives. Coupled with our years of experience, these memories give us the foundation of a well-crafted memorial or funeral service for your loved one. Honoring the life of your loved one can be a most loving, life-affirming, and inspiring act. Contact us today to discuss the possibilities
how to celebrate a life
Once the “big decision” on caring for the physical remains is made, the design process is now about how you’d like to bring family and friends together to celebrate, honor, and remember your loved one. You can have your service anywhere, and any way, you want.
Your choices include:
- The place of celebration
- Day of the week
- Time of day
- The musical selections
- Prayers and/or songs
- Unique features to embody your loved one's beliefs, hobbies, interests, and achievements. These can be anything from having the service at a personal location, to live musicians, to personalized printing, videos and webcasting.
There’s an almost endless variety of special services we can include, to make the occasion truly memorable.
From the early beginnings of human communities, a ceremony of remembrance is a way to affirm the place a loved one held in the hearts of those living within the community. They have become a natural thing to do, and we know them to be a first step in healing. We’re here to help you create the most memorable and meaningful service to honor your loved one.
Although the trend is moving toward cremation, the majority of North Americans still choose to bury their dead and to be buried themselves.
Here are some reasons you might choose burial:
- Burial is traditional within your family, religious group, or geographical area.
- You do not like the idea of cremation. You prefer to have the body slowly return to the elements.
- You want to erect a monument on the grave. Perhaps you want to visit the grave in the days to come, and you find a park-like cemetery more appealing.
Once you decide on burial the finer details come into focus. You’ll be making a selection of casket, vault, and desired cemetery follows. Naturally, we’re here to help you.
Those who choose cremation often hold the belief that it is better to honor the memory of the person, not the physical remains.
Here are some other reasons you might choose cremation:
- Cremation is traditional in your family, religious group, or geographical area
- You prefer the body to be returned quickly and cleanly to the elements. Many people believe that a cremated body becomes one with nature more quickly.
- You have environmental concerns. Perhaps you are worried about the use of valuable land for cemetery space, or believe it is wrong to fill the ground with materials that won't erode ... metal coffins and concrete vaults.
- You want to keep the costs down
If cremation is your choice, then you'll need to make the next decision: whether the cremated remains will be placed in a mausoleum niche, or buried on the cemetery grounds.
In some communities, there's the option for a 'green burial.' If that's what your loved one would prefer, we'll help you select an environmentally-friendly choice.
We often advise families to create a dedicated place for family and friends to connect and remember their loved one. Having such permanent place - in a cemetery, mausoleum, or cremation garden - that can be visited regularly by family and friends is an essential part of the time following a death.
In our rather hectic lives, families aren't given enough time to grieve their losses. The pressures of work, even the simple emotional need to ‘be busy,’ often bring the bereaved back into the ‘real’ world far too soon. In addition to the time constraints put on grieving families, many are now choosing to scatter the cremated remains of their loved one. While that may seem fitting at the time, it means that you do not have a consistent place to connect with the memories of the person you loved so dearly.
Such a place, whether in a cemetery, mausoleum, or a memorial garden in your back yard, gives everyone a special place to go to remember your loved one, or to commemorate important occasions. It can help to make a birthday or anniversary less painful.
Not only that, a permanent place to reflect on your loved one becomes a way of connecting to a family's past. Visiting the resting place of grandparents or great-grandparents may provide children with an anchor to their personal history. While it is a connection to the past, a permanent memorial honors the relationship you still have – and will always have – with that person.
Now that we've given you the basics, it's time to reflect more on exactly what is appropriate for you and your family. If possible, gather everyone together to speak of their feelings and desires. Take the time to review our General Price List together. If you still need more inspiration, or just need answers to your questions, speak with a professional funeral planner by calling (614) 221-7746.